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How should a conservative consider the following reseach? You’ve been lied to. Contrary to media portrayals, men are not always ready to go at it like rabbits anytime, anywhere. Men are not in a chronic state of heat, ready to pounce at a moment’s notice. Men are not consumed with satyriasis — excessive sexual craving — day in and day out. While we’ve been raised to think that men want sex all of the time, the truth is that many, at some point, choose to abstain from sexual activity with their wives or girlfriends.I don’t know about you, but as a woman, I’m tired of hearing that it must be the woman’s choice, or rather her fault, if a romantic relationship is sexless.Women always seem to bear the brunt of the blame when it comes to sexual difficulties in a love affair. My suspicion, as a sexologist who hears about couples’ woes daily, has been that we, as a society, have been rather unfair in pointing the finger at the ladies for a lack of passion. And wouldn’t you know it, a newly released book by Bob Berkowitz and his wife Susan Yager-Berkowitz has confirmed my hunch.According to "He’s Just Not Up for It Anymore," men are, at the very least, co-culprits in America’s most common sexual problem – lack of desire. In their survey of over 4,000 men and women in sexless marriages, followed by hundreds of interviews, the Berkowitz team gathered shocking and sad testimony on the state of our unions.Couples are not only refraining from sex, but often withhold touching, hugging or kissing one another in general. A number of couples never say, “I love you.” While together, many feel isolated and alone, according to the book.An estimated 20 million marriages in the U.S. are without physical passion. Framed differently, 15 percent to 20 percent of American couples have sex 10 times per year or less. Such issues are rarely one-sided. Most professionals believe that low desire is experienced by men and women equally. So what is his side of the story?The data from the co-authors’ survey reveals the following as some of the reasons why men in heterosexual relationships stop having sex: His partner lacks a sense of sexual adventure (68 percent) or doesn’t seem to enjoy sex (61 percent). Consequently, he has become bored with sex and the lack of newness. Funny enough, though, these men conveniently ignore the fact that they themselves are not bringing any originality into the bedroom. Instead, they are choosing to blame their partner for a lack of adventure and sexual enjoyment. He’s interested in sex with others, but not his wife (48 percent). Men indicated that they were sexual beings, or would like to be. The majority masturbated, which is often an indicator that a person does not have a sexual disorder, per se. So what’s the problem? In many cases, familiarity breeds contentment, which makes for boredom. FOXSexpert: Five Reasons Men Stop Having Sex